Dealing With Mean People
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A mean person is someone who is disrespectful, rude, nasty, forgetful of your needs and sometimes abusive.
- The usual reaction to a mean person is to avoid him/her at all costs.
- Realize that the meanness may be caused by their own pain and sense of woundedness.
- You can control your response to the individual.
- You do not have to be a "doormat" and take the abuse.
Possible roles of a mean person:
- Family member.
- Coworker or supervisor.
- So called friend.
- A group of people.
Being a victim:
- Review your choice to still be around that person.
- Internalizing or taking personally what the person has done or said.
- Blaming yourself for what the person has done or said.
- Choosing to do nothing in response to the mean person.
- Trying to change the mean person.
How to cope with a mean person:
- Respond with compassion.
- Be assertive. Stand up for yourself while being respectful.
- Point out the inappropriate behavior and how it made you feel. Be clear and specific.
- Offer a better suggestion to what the person did or said.
- Leave the situation if you are being abused again.
- Take care of your self by doing a self soothing technique or getting support.
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